Archive for the 'Children/family' Category

The “no difference” theory is dead

Tuesday, February 10th, 2015

gay dads1Fresh research has just tossed a grenade into the incendiary issue of same-sex parenting. Writing in the British Journal of Education, Society & Behavioural Science, a peer-reviewed journal, American sociologist Paul Sullins concludes that children’s “Emotional problems [are] over twice as prevalent for children with same-sex parents than for children with opposite-sex parents”.

He says confidently: “it is no longer accurate to claim that no study has found children in same-sex families to be disadvantaged relative to those in opposite-sex families.”

This defiant rebuttal of the “no difference” hypothesis is sure to stir up a hornet’s next as the Supreme Court prepares to trawl through arguments for and against same-sex marriage. It will be impossible for critics to ignore it, as it is based on more data than any previous study — 512 children with same-sex parents drawn from the US National Health Interview Survey. The emotional problems included misbehaviour, worrying, depression, poor relationships with peers and inability to concentrate.

After crunching the numbers, Sullins found opposite-sex parents provided a better environment. “Biological parentage uniquely and powerfully distinguishes child outcomes between children with opposite-sex parents and those with same-sex parents,” he writes.

As he points out, this has immense implications for public policy. The Elton John/David Furnish model of lavishing love and licorice on the offspring of surrogate mothers won’t do. Throwing down the gauntlet before supporters of same-sex marriage, Sullins contends that “the primary benefit of marriage for children, therefore, may not be that it tends to present them with improved parents (more stable, financially affluent, etc, although it does this), but that it presents them with their own parents.”

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Teaching five-year-olds about gay sex is frankly sheer lunacy

Tuesday, February 10th, 2015

gay family3Those who have been concerned that Labour lacks a big, compelling idea before the General Election, and fear that it looks confused and weak, need fret no longer.

On Tuesday, Tristram Hunt, the boyish-looking and self-consciously handsome Shadow Education Secretary, unveiled his master plan. If Labour wins the election, children as young as five will have sex education classes.

The proposal is utterly preposterous. It is also mad. And dangerous. It is amazing that Mr Hunt, who is supposed to be intelligent and reputed to be moderate, could ever bring himself to promote such a policy.

Even in our increasingly sexualised society, most children aged five are not interested in sex. They have other things to think about. Why thrust what must seem strange, irrelevant and possibly worrying notions into their young minds?

The main reason, it seems, is to stop them being homophobes. I am being serious. Launching his plan at a school in East London, Mr Hunt said: ‘The presence of homophobic language and other forms of homophobic bullying in our classrooms, playgrounds and dinner halls is deeply troubling, and it is very real.’

Well, yes. Bullying of any sort is obviously undesirable. But does Mr Hunt really think the cure is to indoctrinate five and six-year-olds? Yes, I’m afraid he does. ‘The use of homophobic language and other forms of homophobic bullying,’ he declared, ‘is damaging the life chances of so many young people. It has a daily effect that limits learning, and causes people long-term damage.’

What on earth is he talking about? The lunacy quotient soared even higher when he asserted that the persistence of homophobia in schools was part of the legacy of Margaret Thatcher’s 1988 Section 28 legislation, which barred local authorities from ‘promoting’ homosexuality, and was repealed in 2003 by Labour under Tony Blair.

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An Open Letter from the Child of a Loving Gay Parent

Thursday, February 5th, 2015

gay family3Take it from the adult child of a loving gay parent: redefining marriage promotes a family structure in which children suffer.

Dear Justice Kennedy,

June is nigh, and with it will come your ruling on the most contentious political issue of our time: marriage.

I write because I am one of many children with gay parents who believe we should protect marriage. I believe you were right when, during the Proposition 8 deliberations, you said “the voice of those children [of same-sex parents] is important.” I’d like to explain why I think redefining marriage would actually serve to strip these children of their most fundamental rights.

It’s very difficult to speak about this subject, because I love my mom. Most of us children with gay parents do. We also love their partner(s). You don’t hear much from us because, as far as the media are concerned, it’s impossible that we could both love our gay parent(s) and oppose gay marriage. Many are of the opinion I should not exist. But I do, and I’m not the only one.

This debate, at its core, is about one thing.

It’s about children.

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Gay Marriage No Thanks at huge pro-natural-family demo in Paris

Wednesday, October 8th, 2014

Alan Paris RallyBy Alan Craig:

Two things stood out in Paris on Sunday: the number and the age of the demonstrators.

Last year La Manif Pour Tous (LMPT) organised massive street protests against President Hollande’s gay marriage proposals. On one occasion 800,000 people were on the streets of Paris defending the natural family from this destructive item on the gay lobby’s agenda.

LMPT held another demo in Paris on Sunday and invited Gay Marriage No Thanks to represent the UK. The purpose of the protest was to mobilise opposition in France to “surrogacy, medically-assisted procreation and the promotion of gender theory in schools” but as previously the protection of children and the natural family were the main drivers in the background.

And again the massive number of protestors was a defining characteristic. Organisers said there were over quarter of a million people attending the march and demo, which together lasted for five hours.

The youthfulness of the protesters was noticeable too. Overwhelmingly the participants were in their twenties and thirties, and teenagers were conspicuous by their noisy enthusiasm and, often, street dancing too.

As in the UK, the government is ignoring the people as it drives through its anti-family proposals. But, clearly, at the grass-roots the traditional natural family is alive and well and full of youthful support in France.

The international delegation comprised delegates from Spain, Italy, Portugal, Poland and Slovakia, as well as Gay Marriage No Thanks from the UK. We made good contacts; there is now the start of a pan-European pro-natural family movement which Gay Marriage No Thanks is committed to support.

Rivka Edelman Takes on the Eurotrash Surrogacy

Wednesday, May 21st, 2014

Drewitt Barlow(Rivka Edelman was brought up by a gay couple)

The Brits must have stronger stomachs than folks on this side of the pond. Or they built up some kind of tolerance to the tabloid-celebrated and deeply creepy couple Mr. Barrie Drewitt and Mr. Tony Barlow.

The picture that emerges of these two, who have reportedly amassed a fortune in the human trafficking and reproductive slavery business, is fascinating. I say this not only because they leave abusive threatening comments all over cyberspace to people they owe money to. We are talking about death threats and pathetic ramblings about being rich enough to “crush” anyone and everyone that gets in their way.

I say they are fascinating also because, perhaps, when the chickens come home to roost it could be the gay community who has been duped the most by the pair.

For anyone unfamiliar with these men they claim to be gay rights activists.

They are gaziollonaires who sued the Church of England because they always dreamed of a church wedding.

They are the “parents” of five children through reproductive slavery. They have made a suspicious fortune from sharing their obsession with designer children, with others — they run a surrogacy brokerage catering to couples who want to acquire children in exchange for cash, and need to match with the right egg “donors” and surrogate wombs for hire.

According to a recent post on the gay hook-up site Gaydar, they are into “speedos and willing to try anything once.” In all fairness they have not claimed to be monogamous. But in all fairness to their children, it’s completely wrong that when they advertised for third parties to join them for threeways, they had the bad taste to post pictures of their five children as an enticement.

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Ofsted abandons inspection of Luton school after homosexuality row

Saturday, May 17th, 2014

OfstedParents of pupils at Muslim school Olive Tree primary say inspectors questioned children about attitudes to homosexuality

Ofsted staff were forced to abandon their inspection of a Muslim primary school in Luton on Thursday after being confronted by parents angry that their children as young as nine had been questioned in private about their attitudes to homosexuality.

The inspectors, including a senior employee, cut short their review of the Olive Tree primary school, an independent Muslim faith school, after the group of parents said they would withdraw their children from the school as long as the inspectors remained.

Ghulam Shah, a parent of one of the children interviewed by the Ofsted inspectors, said his 10-year-old son was upset by the way the questioning was carried out, and that as a parent he was concerned he had not been told the inspectors would be discussing sex with his children.

“He was sat with a male adult who looked him in the eye and said, ‘What do you know about gays?’ What that made him do, it made him panic, and he said ‘I don’t want to continue this conversation,’ because he felt scared, intimidated,” said Shah. “It’s horrible for a child to be in a room with somebody they’ve never met before, who’s not with a teacher and not with a parent.”

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NHS chiefs tell ministers: Change sex education lessons to make all pupils learn about gay marriage

Friday, May 16th, 2014

gay handsHealth boards write to the Scottish Government protesting at new guidance that would allow teachers or pupils to opt out of sex education lessons

SNP ministers are under major pressure from Scotland’s health chiefs to ensure all pupils learn about gay marriage in sex education lessons even where it is against their teachers’ or parents’ religious beliefs.

The country’s largest NHS boards have written to the Scottish Government protesting against new draft guidance for sex education lessons that would allow teachers or pupils to opt out on the grounds of “conscience”.

They argued it would be “extremely concerning” if teachers could refuse to oversee such an essential part of the school curriculum and “alternative arrangements” to ensure gay marriage is taught should always be made.

Allowing children to withdraw from sex education lessons on the grounds of conscience risks them coming under pressure from parents opposed to gay marriage, the health boards warned.

Instead they argued that the guidance should include greater protections against parents mounting campaigns against the content of the lessons. Children should be given the power to overrule their mothers and fathers, it was suggested.

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The first harm is the biggest harm

Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

elton-john-elijah-zachary-david-furnishA bioethics expert argues that laws ensuring that every child knows its mother and father are unethical.

Britain’s first same-sex marriages will take place this coming weekend. In May Sir Elton John and his partner David Furnish plan to exchange vows, making them spouses as well as parents to their two sons, Zachary and Elijah. Jubilant campaigners say that fears of an impending social calamity are nonsense.

In The Conversation, a law lecturer at Cardiff University, Leanne Smith, comments: “Ultimately, no institutions, religions, lifestyles or individuals have been harmed … The advent of gay marriage changes virtually nothing – but by validating gay relationships, it will transform lives and spread happiness.”

But something has changed: Elijah and Zachary do not know which of the two men is their father and they do not know who their mother is. The California birth certificates list Sir Elton as the legal father and Furnish as the legal mother. The biological mother and the surrogate mother may or may not be the same person, but they have been excluded from the boys’ lives.

The UN Declaration of the Rights of the Child guarantees both that “a child of tender years shall not, save in exceptional circumstances, be separated from his mother” and that “the best interests of the child shall be the paramount consideration” in all legislation. Same-sex marriage not only violates these rights, but institutionalises the injustice. Children living within these partnerships are cut off from their mother or father, or even from both. Of all the harms flowing from the legalisation of same-sex marriage, this is the first and most inevitable.

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GMNT attends a fake gay wedding

Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

GMNT1“I am writing to inform you of the gay wedding between Barrie and Tony Drewitt-Barlow taking place this Saturday,” gushed the PR agent’s email from Essex that dropped into the GayMarriageNoThanks inbox a few days earlier.

“We… actively invite protesters to turn up and be interviewed,” said the blurb. “The national press already confirmed are Sky TV, The Daily Mail, The Daily Mirror, The Sun. A significant number of regional publications, radio stations and TV channels are also confirmed…

“Stars of The Only Way Is Essex are among the many celebrities set to make appearances at the wedding of the gay dads,” the puff piece went on. “Elton John has been invited,” they oozed.

“Yeah, right,” we thought.

GMNT2Clearly the event was to be master-class in mirrors, hype and fluff. The Drewitt-Barlows were legally bound together in a massively publicised Civil Partnership ceremony in 2006; they cannot therefore legally get married until more laws are changed, probably in early 2015. So there would be a celebration, a party and a booze-up, but no marriage could take place and no marriage registrar would attend. The wedding event would be fun, but a fake.

We decided to go anyway. Having confirmed with the PR agent that no children would be in the media zone outside the event, and that we came in peace to explain our opposition not to protest, we set off with our GMNT posters and arrived just before it started.

Surprise, surprise: Sky TV was not there. Neither was The Daily Mail. Nor The Sun. Not even Elton John.

But we had half an hour in the sunshine with the media anyway. We were interviewed by eight or nine journalists and cameramen, and most of them – like most people – had never considered the adverse effects of gay marriage on children.

Nor had they understood that to deliberately deprive children of their mum and replace her with a second dad is a form of child abuse; children have a right to their dad and mum partly because “both parents have common responsibilities for the upbringing and development of the child” (UN Convention on the Rights of the Child; Article 18).

There is a long way to go to wake up politicians and the media about the rights and interests of the child. But for our children’s sake, GMNT must make the necessary noise and up the political ante.

Alan and Lisa



Love Isn’t Enough: 5 Reasons Why Same-Sex Marriage Will Harm Children

Friday, March 21st, 2014

By Trayce Hansen, PhD

Proponents of same-sex marriage believe the only thing children really need is love. Based on that supposition, they conclude it’s just as good for children to be raised by loving parents of the same sex, as it is to be raised by loving parents of the opposite sex. Unfortunately, that basic assumption—and all that flows from it—is false. Because love isn’t enough!

gay dadsAll else being equal, children do best when raised by a married mother and father. It’s within this environment that children are most likely to be exposed to the emotional and psychological experiences they need in order to thrive.

Men and women bring diversity to parenting; each makes unique contributions to the rearing of children that can’t be replicated by the other. Mothers and fathers simply are not interchangeable. Two women can both be good mothers, but neither can be a good father.

So here are five reasons why it’s in the best interest of children to be raised by both a mother and a father:

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